When you hear the phrase ‘family first’ now, do you think of the infamous Tiger Mother and roll your eyes? Well, stop it, and look at us.
No, seriously, look at us.
We look exhausted, right?
We sure are!
But guess what? We’re also as happy as we’ll ever be.
Yes, this photo depicts a unique occasion, but it reflects what’s becoming clearer to me every day:
If you put yourself first, you won’t be tired or inconvenienced much, but you won’t be happy for very long either.
My experience is that self-focus is secretly a form of self-sabotage. Like many addictive behaviors, it gives you a quick fix, but ultimately leaves you hungry.
Do I plan to tell Naomi this?
Absolutely. I believe the key will be to teach her to value her family and community at least as much, if not more, then herself. Frankly, I wish this had been more emphasized in my family and schools, but it certainly wasn’t in the culture in the 80′s and 90′s. This value has become more prevalent with the rise of the environmental movement, but I still believe this is one area where this fluffy, year-of-the-rabbit dad could learn something from the rabid Tiger Mother.
As always, would love to hear your thoughts.